This is not the blog I sat down to write. Today’s topic was meant to be about meditation, but in the end, it’s about perfectionism.
Have you ever found yourself so bogged down in trying to get every detail correct, that you did nothing? This is not a new issue for me, it has come up before. I want to do something…so I work at it and work at it, but it’s never perfect, so I'm never done. How frustrating! I have come to realize over the years that the saying is true…
Perfectionism robs us of our ability to just be excellent…of even just really good. It causes us to get lost in the minutia of details, to do nothing rather than something. It can lead to procrastination and overwhelm until we realize that it has caused us to keep our gifts to ourselves, rather than share what might not yet be perfect.
Why am I talking about this when I said I was planning a blog on meditation? Because, I sat down to write what should have been a very easy to write post and 25 minutes later, I hadn’t written a word. I had the topic all mapped out in my head, so I had planned to just sit down and quickly type it up. But before I started to type, I thought about the title and pictures… I went to Google to look for quotes using OM in it. I was looking for quotes and pictures to inspire the title and to add to the post. This led me to question the proper spelling of OM, because I found it as OM, as well as OHM, OMM and AUM. This led me to researching the spelling… because god forbid I should not use the “correct” spelling. I was finally settling on the fact that even though many respectable sites and people used the spelling OHM, OM seems to be the most used. And then I looked at the clock and thought “whoa, what happened! I should be done by now”. I had let myself get sucked down into the abyss known as perfectionism.
If it happens to me, I assume it happens to some of you out there too! Maybe my perfectionistic procrastination was actually a good thing this time, because it led to something I wasn’t planning to create at all. Next time you find yourself lost in procrastination, ask yourself if perfectionism is to blame….then knock it off and make something happen.
But perfectionism isn't just about creation (or lack there of)...every day the media bombards us with unrealistic examples of perfection...of what we "should" be. These ideas of "perfect" lead to unrealistic expectations of ourselves, of our partners, our kids, our jobs....etc. We compare our bodies and our lives to lies, and then we feel imperfect. We strive to have the perfect life, even if it's not really what we want at all. Stop believing what you see on TV or FB...live your own life the way you want it. Be happy with all you have and how wonderful it all is, even if it doesn't match up with what society says is perfect.
Until we meet again, be imperfectly wonderful!!
Tracy Martorana is a Nutrition & Wellness Consultant, Meditation Instructor and Herbalist...hoping to inspire you to live your life from a place of Holistic Wellness.